Undoubtedly, one of the biggest parts of my job is to motivate and encourage. To help my clients to pick apart the reasons (or excuses) that stop them from truly achieving their potential.
As you can imagine, this isn’t an overnight job and my approach has to be consistent and subtle. I need to know when to hold back and leave someone to it (while planting little seeds), and when to get a little bit more direct about the situation.
Because all of my clients know what they ‘should’ be doing and what a healthy diet looks like. But when life, emotion and our own ingrained beliefs get involved, it often doesn’t make for plain sailing. But if there’s one thing I try to consistently promote, it’s that we all need to stop trying to control the uncontrollable and deal with the stuff we CAN change.
All too often we use things that are happening in our lives as a reason not to exercise, or eat healthily, or look after ourselves. And the frustration kick in when these things keep happening – a baby that won’t sleep, work getting busy, being ill, doing up your house.
None of these are reasons in themselves for not exercising (unless you literally are working 12-hour days, in which case cut yourself some slack!) or eating well. They’re just reasons that you might not FEEL like doing those things at that particular point in time. But if we spend our lives letting all of these external factors prevent us from taking really good care of ourselves, then surely we are doing ourselves a disservice. We’re throwing our hands up and saying that we are not in control of our own lives. We are letting life happen to us.
Yet ultimately, WE need to be in charge of our own lives. We need to look to where we do have control – e.g. whether or not we choose to exercise (no-one can honestly tell me that they can’t make 20 minutes a couple of times a week for this), the food we put into our mouths, the amount of things we ask ourselves to do each day, the way we talk to ourselves.
Life will keep happening, and yes, that makes certain things harder at times. But we all need to realise that we have the power within ourselves to make decisions that benefit us. Don’t let life walk all over you. Take a deep breath and know that you are in charge of you.